Alot of the time we are caught up in how far we aren't going rather than allowing ourselves to remain in the present moment... This thought is founded from my daily yoga practice from today.
As yogi's we are encouraged to focus on clearing our minds, controling our breath, deepening and strengthening each pose, and to the dedication of our practice - enabling us to open our hearts. We learn to let go of the past, to not fret about the future and to live in the present moment.
By all means, I have to agree that especially for someone like myself who is goal-oriented, impatient and ambitious this is the greatest struggle for me. I am competitive with myself especially in my yoga practice. This allows me to be highly focused in a class and to deepen poses and gain muscle mass which aesthetically and mobility wise, I am pleased with. Now, I'm onto the next phase of my practice which is to apply the teachings to my life.
Like most 28 year old females I feel the pressure from family to "find someone and settle down," "find the most profittable profession so I can begin saving," "consider freezing my eggs in case I want children"; there's quite a bit of added pressure to not only be a top dog financially, physically, and to have an equal counterpart who wants to procreate with me.
WAIT. STOP.
This is the first time in my entire life where I am completely self aware, able to look at life objectively and appreciate who I have become as a woman. I think so many women feel pressured into marriage and babies (not all or the majority, but there are some) before they even know their true selves. I too have dated guys in the past and "tried to be the right type of woman for them." LADIES, why do we do this? It's so completely unattractive to have someone who doesn't challenge you, encourage you to be your own person and who is attempting to mold you into the type of person they think they want rather than accepting you. HOWEVER, before you shake fingers at the males, ladies, we're the ones who allow them to do so.
If a relationship no longer serves it's purpose of making you happy - LEAVE. I assure you, there will be some one who treats you better in the horizon.
If you feel overweight, hate your job or the town you live in; explore what activities you can do to better yourself and your situation, adjust your attitude, it's the only thing you have power to change no matter the circumstance. - Don't be a stagnant person.
Don't have the perfect boyfriend or husband? STOP LOOKING. Allow the person you want to end up with to fall inlove with you when you are your best version of yourself. If they don't find you, it won't matter because you'll be so pleased with yourself to notice.
When women stop competing with each other and support, love and befriend each other it makes being single the perfect place to be.
Work wise? Yes, I have varying interests, would love to be more financially sound and to have a high powered position (as I have always managed people) however, careers, take time to grow and develop like that of my daily yoga practice, a marriage, or raising a child.
Rather than beating yourself up over "where you AREN'T," appreciate where and who you are at this very moment. You'll never be in this moment again. It's alot easier to handle disappointments when you stop projecting expectations outside of what you can control. Meet every challenge with peace and positivity and watch who wants to be around you rather than who you have to seek out.
Fighting the good fight with y'all,
Ohm.
Steph
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